12/31/09

Christmas 2009 has come & gone once again. Christmas eve and day we spent celebrating with the kids. Good food, gifts and lots of love made for a great holiday.

The kids were more than happy with what they got and that's all that really matters for me. Making sure my kids are happy especially Christmas morning.

Boxing day (as we call the day after Xmas) my mother, her husband, two friends of ours & their two kids came over for a little dinner. It was fun except the weather wasn't the best considering my mom had to drive an hour back home. She left before dark and all is well.

Throughout the week between Xmas & new years we have been socializing with good friends, making the last week of the year at least a memorable one.

In two hours the clock will strike midnight ending 2009 and beginning 2010. Another year gone.

2009 was a pretty good year - the highlights were our son turning 1, our daughter hitting 5 and moving into a better neighbourhood and bigger house to raise our beautiful kids. We adopted a cat, reconnected with old friends and made new ones.

I began my blog in April 2009, began writing, joined Twitter and met some amazing and wonderful people in 2009 too.

Unfortunately there were some family and even friend feuds which couldn't be resolved as easily as one would think. Moving on is hard but sometimes it's best to do what makes you happy. As hard as its been we regret nothing. We wish them all the best for 2010.

For 2010 I want to write more, I want to be able to write on a computer more instead of my trusty iPhone. Actually make it more into a career than a hobby.

I want to have more patience and not let the little things get to me. I want to do more for myself and try to gain the courage to face the battles that lay ahead involving my upcoming surgery.

Most of all, I want to make sure my children and my partner are healthy and happy. They are my world & continue to be into 2010.

Hug your kids and kiss your spouse - have a safe & happy new years eve everyone!


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

12/19/09

Being prepared for the holidays is something that we all as mothers try to accomplish. We've decorated our home, cooked a fabulous meal but after all the christmas rush we forgot the most important part - the desert! What to do...check online, after all the Internet is a great library for recipes both easy and inexpensive.

Here is a quick, simple and fun little recipe I found on www.bettycrocker.com

- I'm going to try it out this week with my kids as an activity during the Christmas holidays-

Christmas Tree Brownies




You will need:
• 1 box of brownie mix
1/4 cup water
1/3 cup veg. Oil
2eggs
• candy coated chocolates (m&ms or smarties, coated mini hershey kisses)
• 1 cup of betty crocker white whipped icing** 2-3 drops of green food coloring

1- Preheat oven to 375*F
Grease only bottom of 9" round baking pan.
Prepare brownie mix as directed on package (using eggs, oil and water).
Pour into pan.

2- BAKE 50-55 minutes or until the old toothpick method comes out clean. Cool for 1 hour.

3- Add food color to icing (optional unless making traditional green trees :-))

4- Serve: Cut into 12 wedges and decorate!


**have fun with this recipe by substituting the icing by drizzling plain white icing sugar over chocolate icing gives a "snowy" look and decorating let's the kids be creative by using different candies and colors on their tree**


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Note: the food pictured is not my creation it's from www.Bettycrocker.com, I will post my own when we bake these...Now those look good!

12/11/09

A few months back I made a very sad and failed attempt to sell some of my kids old clothes. Funny enough I actually felt this guilt doing it because normally when my kids outgrow their things we simply give them to somebody who needs them, for free.

So now being it Christmas we have been giving ds old clothes away to someone we know with a little boy too. Tonight he got an early gift, dh brought over ds exersaucer we haven't used it in months but bought it brand new only ds ever used it.

Feels good to know we are helping others without gain, although $$ from used clothes couldve helped but oh well!

People in the past helped us when we were starting out, i'd just like to repay the favor by doing the same. I would love to donate money to charity but financially we just can't.

Giving puts me in the Christmas mood.

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Just about everybody has access to the Internet. Whether they just browse or are hard core bloggers, the Internet is a vast place of information both educational and unfortunately sometimes personal, a little too personal.

Blogs are fun to write and they can be fun to read. Anyone can open a free blog and write whatever they wish. Word of the wise: think before you post. Anybody can read your blog, anybody.

This is where my story kicks in. Recently I came back in contact with a relative who I haven't spoken to in almost two years due to a family dispute, long story.

Anyway, we had chatted online for barely two weeks when I stumbled across something very hurtful and on the internet of all places.

After a facebook email pleading for us to get together and talk things through I find on their myspace blog an entire paragraph belittling me as a mother and as a woman, complete lies about me and written just less than 3 months ago.

I was shocked that somebody especially family could try to use the Internet as an outlet to make themselves feel better by belittling somebody like that. Unreal.

My reaction: told (not asked) the person to take the post down and expressed my disgust in the whole situation. They shouldn't expect any further of me any time soon.

As terrible as this is right before the holidays, it really gives me a good reason to focus even more on the people who truly care, unconditional love of my dh and kids.

Just a little advice to Internet newbes, think before you post!

And yes, I thought this one through ;-)



-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

12/3/09

Tonight we had our first parent teacher interview. Of course I went, being the one who deals with most of the childrens appointments. I was nervous and not about meeting the teacher but about what she had to say about our dd.

For those of you new to my blog my dd is an amazing little girl. She's bright, has a good sense of humour, she has a big heart and the whole package but when she doesn't get what she wants watch out. It's like watching her transition from this innocent 5 year old to a mouthy know it all 13 year old. She will do anything to get her way (not like she does no matter what she pulls with me!)

So back to the interview, at 5:45 I hustled my butt in the freezing cold to make the 6:10 meeting. Made it there 10 minutes early too (organized mommy points!). The 6:00 family were late so I was able to go earlier, bonus!

Met the teacher, lovely lady very welcoming and kind. We discussed dds progress as far as school work goes she's been progressing well. Which made me quite happy but the harder part was about to be said.

I think the teacher knew I was expecting it when she said "okay, now to discuss her...um...behaviour". Here it came, in a nicer way than I had interpreted in my head. To put it short my dd is a handful and some at school. Worst part is she's only there for 2 1/2 hours a day!

Being on time outs, having to be sent to another class and basically doing what sounded worse than she does to me at home. The teacher finished with "She is a lovely child, we just need to tone down the determination". Determined is a light way of putting it.

I felt like crying on the walk home but instead I thought about a decent speech when dd and I had our talk about the interview when I got home.

I got home, discussed the interview first with dh. Gave him the heads up, he was impressed by her french work report. Dd came in the room so we sat her down and discussed everything.

As a mom I believe in letting my kids know they can come to me with anything no matter how big or small, that's what I'm here for. Every night I spend about 10-15 minutes before bed when I tuck her in to just talk to her. It doesn't matter what about but I always end it telling her how special she is to me, her daddy & her brother. She always replies "I love you too mom". The reason seeing her act out the way she has been breaks my heart because I know that's not her.

Hopefully my new and improved mommy methods will work. Wish me luck!


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Becoming a mom is one of the most wonderful things in life, enjoying every happy moment from pregnancy to birth. When baby arrives a lot of mothers find themselves scratching their heads. The parenting books didn't even come close to the real thing leaving moms confused and frustrated not knowing how to deal with the little things that can feel so big at the time.

If I hadn't received the advice I did, through online networks of new moms as well as family and friends, I think the first few months of motherhood would've been a little more crazy.

Here are my top picks of advice given to me by the "wiser" and learned at the time my daughter was born:

1) Being a mother means that most of your time will be spent taking care of baby, don't forget about you! Once a day do something for you, take a walk, listen to your iPod while in the hot bath, whatever brings you to that quiet place do it. Mom needs to recharge the batteries too.

2) Sleep when the baby sleeps. With mountains of laundry, a house to clean and baby bottles to make most would laugh at the thought of sleeping when the baby sleeps but honestly take the advice. You need your energy to take care of baby. Every baby has a routine, so when nap time comes for baby it should come for mommy too. If you're lucky enough to have family and friends around, ask them for help. Even if its to bring over a hot meal for supper or something during your transition into new mommyhood.

3) Don't take others advice as a personal attack on your parenting skills. Some people can come off rude, they can come off sounding like judge Judy and it can hurt your feelings but most of the time they are just doing to you what was done to them. They are just trying to help from experience. If you feel it's unsolicited advice or are insulted, let them know you've got this.

4) Know that no matter what you do, that little baby loves you unconditionally. She looks at you for everything from food to cuddles. As scary as it might sound, as she gets older the bonds will only grown stronger between her and you.

5) Remember every baby is different and although baby books can give you good pointers, you won't find the magic key at the end. What might work to calm some babies may not work for others etc etc but never give up. As you get to know your baby you will know what soothes and what just doesn't work. No matter what anyone says, do what makes you and your baby happy.

Have your own tips on parenting you would like to share with the world of new moms? Leave a comment below, I love to hear from my readers!

11/23/09







Flu season, it comes hand in hand with the colder seasons of fall and winter coming in. This year we have another bothersome worry with the threat of the dreaded H1N1 or swine flu lurking around what seems lately, every corner.

My family and I endured a long tough two weeks with everybody being sick one after another. It's incredible how quickly this virus can spread but with the help of bedrest, a little TLC and some great online resources about the flu we made it through and recovered.

As we all know the government has released a H1N1 vaccine which has it's benefits but also brings worry to others so whether you decide to vaccinate against this illness is completely up to you. The same choice we have to vaccinate against seasonal flu or not as well.

Although the vaccine is available there are still chances you or worse your children could contract the virus and bring it into your once healthy home.

The first thing you should do when you see your little one isn't themselves is NOT panick.

H1N1 can really only be detected through testing however symptoms are close to that of a regular seasonal flu.

Check for the following symptoms:

•Fever
•Sore Throat
•Cough
•Respiratory Problems
•Body Aches
•Diarrhia
•Vomiting

For more information about H1N1 symptoms visit http://www.h1n1-symptoms.org.

The best thing to do when your child is sick is to keep them home from public places like schools, malls, even buses and quarrentined to one room of the house if possible.

Have them wear a face mask if they have to be around anyone who is not sick and make hand washing essential.

Keep the sick one as comfortable as possible with plenty if fluid to prevent dehydration. Let them get the rest they need.

For more detailed information about how to care for someone while sick please visit:
http://www.health.gov.on.ca/en/ccom/flu

There have been quite a few emergency cases of the flu this year which required medical attention. If any of the following symptoms occur please visit your local emergency room as soon as possible to be tested for h1n1.

•fast breathing or trouble breathing
•bluish skin color
•not drinking enough fluids
•very sleepy or lethargic
•in babies, being so irritable they don't want to be held
•fever with a rash
•flu-like symptoms that improve, then return with fever and a worse cough

There is nothing worse than having a family member sick, especially a young child so please take precautions by influencing hand washing and keeping disinfectant cleaning products on hand at all times. You can't be too safe when dealing with your health and the health of your family.

For a great parents guide to H1N1 and prevention please visit http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/bacterial_viral/h1n1_guide.htm

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

11/5/09

This is Hazel -






A 3 year old indoor shelter cat a friend of mine had to give away due to having to constantly break up fights betwen Hazel & her own cats. She contacted me last week with the offer to take her in.

This was a decision I have been bouncing back and forth in my head since dd started begging for a kitty about two years ago. Kittens are too much work with shots and messes etc, older cats can be set in their ways sometimes not very good when you have young kids. Hazel however is only 3 and has lived in large households including other pets but Zeus is not just an ordinary dog...he's BIG.






My main concern about bringing hazel into our home was not about her harming my kids but rather how would she handle my kids and giant monster of a dog.

I haven't owned a cat since I moved on my own and started my own family nearly 7/8 years ago...Living with my mother she had three of her own. She still has three cats but the eldest of the original three passed away last year and my mother adopted my brothers cat when he moved and couldn't keep her. My kids have never owned a cat and my dog has never lived with other animals in fact typically he can become agressive so that concerned me a bit.

So after talking it over with dh and asking my friend a million things about her now, Hazel is my new cat. So far she's wonderful. She's friendly and really gentle. Zeus thinks she's great and wants to play but his size scares the crap out if her so she'll hide. Which is a lot better than the scenerio in the summer of Zeus cornering the neihbours cat and freaking out on it. Hazel, consider yourself on his good side! ;-)

Dd is happy she finally has a pet kitty in the family. Only problem is dd tries to pet her, backwards and when Hazels had enough she runs away. Well dd although told over and over not to, chases her. Not in a mean kid kind of way, just because she wants to pet the cat!

Ds has no interest in the cat so far. I think this wi be good for everyone, something different. Dh is even taking a liking to our new furry friend...


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

11/3/09

Halloween 2009 has come & gone, we almost missed it but fortunately everything turned out ok!

Friday afternoon dd came down with a serious fever, we almost had to make a trip to the hospital but fortunately her fever broke overnight with the help of childrens motrin and she was feeling better by Saturday morning.

Although not 100% she spent the day resting, hoping she'd feel better in time for trick or treating.

I felt terrible, she was so excited about Halloween like any 5 year old & had been talking about it for weeks.

After dinner she was feeling much better. We put her devil costume together while dh and ds went to the store. Ds was supposed to be pooh bear but the costume was too small so he was an elephant. Someone called him horton from the movie horton hears a who.

For a little girl she got a lot of candy. To the point her felt bag ripped by the end and she had to finish off with a plastic shopping bag we had on hand.

Exhausted after dd only ate two candies and fell asleep on the couch. Little brother had been munching on cheetos while sister gathered the loot. When we got home he was good for bed too.

It was nice to go out & spend the event as a family. The kids had fun and that's what matters most.







Until next time...keep dreaming...

10/29/09

An old friend of mine sent me a message via facebook today. She knows previously I had been talking about adding a cat to our family, knowing she works with animals if ever she was to come across a suitable one for my family she'd let me know. She's had a hard time letting go but she asked me if I could take her beloved cat Hazel. Hazel is a shelter cat my friend was fostering. She was in line for a good home.

She's got too many animals to take care of as it is and her schedule isn't fair to hazel who needs alot of love.
Being a SAHM I have time to contribute to hazel as well as my kids and of course our beloved Zeus, who I really hope is on his best behaviour the day hazel comes to stay.
She's 3 as of november, cuddly cat :-) good with kids and animals too.

I'm happy I'm helping out a friend as well as this cat. Her eyes are just pretty!
Can't wait to meet her!




-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

10/24/09

My daughter is starting to learn about numbers and money. She understands the concept of purchasing items and that you need money to do so.

DD earned 5$ to spend where she wanted on what she wanted when we went for errands today. Zellers had nothing within her price range or interest. The dollar store was her last hope after looking for that perfect something elsewhere. She walked the toy isle about six times before quickly deciding on this pink rubber balloon toy that looked like a blow fish. After getting what I needed we headed to the cash. I noticed the blowfish was dirty it looked like it was previously on the floor.
I asked dd if she would rather some Halloween candy than another toy to just end up in the toybox. With a big smile she agreed.
After that dh & I wanted a coffee so we stopped at Tim hortons. Dd insisted she go in and buy some donuts for her and her brother so a pack of 20 timbits she bought.
I was impressed with her donut idea, sharing with her brother too was sweet. Showing the "big girl" despite the little girl drama this week. Always mommys girl :-)



-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

10/20/09

(The following post is based on Mondays day, although my blog app posted it as Tuesday)

Today was looking to be a decent day. I was up early with my kids getting ds ready for his drs appointment and dd ready for school.

Ds had an audiology test which turned out great and according to dd she had a good day at school except one time out...or so I thought.

My cell rings at around 7:30 but I was unable to answer due to bath routine for the kids. They called back an hour later and it was the couseller from dds school readiness program.

She started by telling me dd has been doing OK but lately she seems to be having trouble adjusting to the school setting. She basically mentioned most behaviour any five year old would show except my cute little girl swore at a boy. As any other school dds catholic school doesn't tolerate it.

It isn't typical for dd to swear, she knows the difference between good words and bad words, we are constantly reminding her when things get tough to tell a grown up. Although dd is tough when she's had enough she's had enough, she just goes about it the wrong way lately. Still no excuse for using words she knows are rude and not tolerated.

What upset me the most is that she lied to me, stating it was the other way around the boy swore at her. Lying to me is like telling me you don't trust me even though I know deep down that's not why a child the age of dd would lie, more or less to get out of any consequences.

I'm not perfect, I'm a parent and I'm just trying to raise respectible children. My children are my life, pride & joy so when things like this happen it just makes me crumble into an emotional pile and get to thinking "wow she's only 5...what am I doing so wrong" even though I know she's a great kid so we must be doing something right.

Nobody said motherhood was easy.




-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

10/11/09

It is thanksgiving weekend 2009. Dd has a four day weekend, talk about busy!

Luckily this year we only had one turkey dinner, as opposed to our typical two to three turkey meals in a four day time period.

Yesterday my mom & her husband came over for dinner. Turkey, potatoes, etc typical Canadian turkey dinner. Was really good too! It's always nice to see at least somebody for a holiday but nothing beats the old days of thanksgiving at my grandmas.

Homemade everything from dinner to desert prettymuch. You'd be so full after you wouldn't want turkey until next year.

Today I spent taking pictures and numbering more used clothes for the gallery. It's coming along nicely! Now hopefully my idea won't bs a bust like just about every other idea I've had & we'll be on our way!

Well it was left over turkey sandwiches tonight after I ruined baking some cookies today. They turned out all mushy & weird. I'm going to try some muffins after I clean up the dinner mess!


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

10/6/09

We all have or have had that one friend who was the friend for everything. A best friend, or the closest thing to a best friend. There when you need them, you when they need ect. Unfortunately unexpected events in life can cause negative effects and impact the relationship to the point you see eachother as nothing but strangers. It can be almost as devistating as breaking up with a boyfriend to lose a best friend.

This happened in my life, we had friends we considered best. Friends we spent holiday dinners with, birthdays or just shoot the breeze. An unfortunate series of events occurred causing this friendship to split up. Feelings were hurt and emotional wounds that at the time could not be healed with a simple apology. Needless to say we haven't spoken to eachother in a very long time.

Yesterday we brought our kids to the park and imagine who was there. The girl I used to refer to as a best friend.

Our daughters knew eachother before but haven't seen eachother for a while. They recognized eachother, played together. This little event brought back memories of the good times we had as friends.

We spoke breifly upon leaving as the girls didn't want to go home. Awkward situation at it's best.

It's a complicated situation, why we lost touch etc but it was nice to see the kids playing again.

This morning I recieved an email. My old friend initiating conversation for a coffee visit. Took the visit, i'm not sure what will happen but as forgiving and sensitive as I am when it comes to people who had an impact on my life, it's nice to know we don't have to walk on eggshells if we happen to cross paths.

Keeping civil is better than acting out in an immature way. Less conflict and I am not one for confrontations of the negative type.

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

10/1/09







It is October and by the looks of it fall has officially hit us, and hard. Leaves are falling left & right off the trees, the air has that "winter is coming" cold crispness to it and we've been getting a dreaded amount of cold rainy days. Get ready for cold and flu season people!

Already a month into Kindergarten for dd. So far so good she likes both her teachers although she talks about her French teacher more, we know who the favourite is.

At first dd was forgetful about raising her hand before speaking and disrupting the class which thankfully they already knew about her from her school readiness program assessment earlier this year. She's progressing well.

No bad notes except that one time she fell, scraped her elbow and refused the teacher to clean it properly. That was a fun night at bath time "don't touch my bobo!"

October is going to be busy! Photo day tomorrow, ds has a cheo appointment next week, paediatrician the week after in between we have thanksgiving and top it off with Halloween.

I had a nice bug suit that wouldve fit ds this year. But dd decided it looked better with five legs instead of six and ripped one of the center ones right off leaving a hole. I can't sew to save my life.

So far dd wants to be a princess, a witch a devil, a ghost, a robot, a vampire, a cowboy, a pirate and we'll see what else she comes up with until she decides.

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

9/28/09


Despite the rainy weather mother nature has brought us, today is a celebration day.







DH and I celebrate six years together today. The photo above was taken at the beginning of our journey as a couple, back in fall 2003.

Things have definitely changed, especially my hair - which is no longer that strange reddish brown colour.

Our relationship has had it's ups and downs. Far from perfect and insane experiences that would've sent anyone running for the hills. Through everything we still have whatever we had 6 years ago and some. Not only becoming a couple over the past six years but also a family. I still love him as much as the first time we said "I love you".

I can imagine my post when we hit 10 years! :-))

Aside from all the gushy mushy stuff my helium writing has hit 60 articles and I've been back in the blog world for 6 months! Hmm six seems to be a common number today.

Time for afternoon mom duty! Until next time keep dreaming always!

Update- my mom remembered our anniversary and sent a card in the mail we got it today. (inside says nevermind, that's too personal) ;-))






9/25/09

Being a stay at home mom we need a window to the outside world besides picking our kids up from school, talking to the cashier at the store or when we maybe get a chance to get out with a girl friend, who half the time is as busy as we are.

Needless to say by my blog and many of my "Online friends" blogs that we turn to the world wide web for comfort on everything from keeping in touch with people we know (or met online but are really cool) to online banking and some of us even online business.

Everything is web based these days. Shopping, banking, gambling, information of every kind you name it it's online. Which brings up the subject - knowing when you're addicted to the world wide web.

Here are ten ways to tell you are an Internet addict:

1) The first thing you do when you wake up after making coffee is check your online accounts like email, facebook, Twitter etc even if it's via mobile device.

2) You keep an online blog and update it on a regular basis even if absolutely nobody reads it.

3) You have subscribed to more than 5 news letters or online forums of interest.

4) You require more than one email address to keep everything web based on track.

5) You refer to your online friends as friends in conversation with people offline.

6) You find yourself using online lingo in everyday speech (example telling your child you'll BRB)

7) You have the highest speed of Internet your provider offers because loading time is of the essence when surfing the web.

8) You email, MMS or SMS your spouse more than have verbal conversation in the course of 24 hours.

9) You have either wifi or 3G network enabled mobile device just so you can keep in the now with your online world.

10) You've read, laughed and nodded at most of these.

Now get off the Internet and go read a book ;-)

Written by @AMotherhoodBlog 

9/8/09




Last week dh helped a friend move and well practically clean out any old stuff from his garage etc. He ended up bringing home a couple of tools and a dirt devil scorpion dust buster.

My mom owned I believe a black & decker model which I found at the time didn't pick up much but this dirt devil works!

It has this wet/dry feature on it. The guy just didn't want it anymore, still works so why not.

It's become my new best friend as far as cleaning goes. Hardwood floors don't usually require vacuuming but in areas such as under the high chair, stroller etc places where my kids accumulate crumbs, it's awesome!

Yeah so it's just a dust buster, a used one at that but it's mine and it works :-) so long crumbs and dog hair!

Now to find a useful replacement for my broom & dustpan ;-)

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

8/7/09

Today is activity day for DD. She is going to the circus with her daycare group. She was so excited this morning she actually behaved herself and didn't give me a hard time about having to brush her hair. After all, she had to look fantastic for the circus show. Kids...make you laugh or make you want to cry.

I remember going to the circus as a child. Breifly however, I was quite young. I remember my grandfather being there, my parents and of course my older brother who made me so jealous when he got to ride the elephant because he was older.

Now that I think of it, years later I rode an elephant at parc safari and honestly it wasn't all that.

Years ago I worked for a fundraising company and one of our campaigns was the Shriners circus. We did quite a good job selling those tickets so our boss passed a few to some of the employees for a job well done. Since it had been well over a decade since I had went, my friends and I attended the show.

They had no elephants because apparently one was sick so they quarrentined them all, the black panther swatted at the tamer and had to be taken out of the ring. I am all for animal rights so the useage of animals in the circus for our entertainment does make me clench teeth but the show itself was pretty amazing.

The jugglers, clowns, acrobatics and those that use silk sashes and spin around in an artistic way. They made the show.

My daughter however is young and wanted to see the elephants today. I will hear all about her amazing day tonight.

Meanwhile mommy has to mad clean and try to organize this house because grandma and the gang are coming for a visit!

I'm excited it's been a year since I've seen some of my family excluding my mom & stepdad :-)


-- Until next entry Keep Dreaming

8/1/09

My birthday was great yesterday, dh took me shopping and I ended up buying two tops as well as something to drink last night.
Two 1L Bacardi breezers orange tropical smoothie drinks. I'm not for hard liquor or beer these were good. A little too good lol

It almost looked like my mini party was going to be a bust. After a day of preparing and getting the kids settled 2/3 couples didn't show up and also didn't even call to say they weren't coming. That's when you know who your real friends are.

Obviously we aren't worth even a phone call so I didn't let it ruin my fun! The couple that came are close friends of ours. We all have a lot in common & always have good times. So considerate they even brought a cake for me!

It was a quiet party but with good friends, good drinks and a yummy cake it was fabulous!

Dh tried hard to make it a good birthday, he is sweet like that. We had a great time!






This cake was awesome! Not too sweet, moist & fresh. Excellent way to celebrate my special day!

Until next entry keep dreaming.

7/27/09

-Wisemen speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something- Plato

In life you will always have at least a few people deciding to take it upon themselves to tell you "like it is" or at least how they perceive whatever it is they feel the need to let their voice be heard about, despite the consequences.

Whether it comes in the form of an e-mail, written letter or voiced verbally, words can still hurt and burn bridges if not chosen properly by those deemed "loved ones".

Not everyone will agree with everyone they meet, befriend or are even related to. But being considerate toward others feelings is important in any relationship no matter how angry or hurt you are. If you expect respect you have to show respect.

Recently this kind of thing happened in my world where yet again family decided to "tell it as they see".

Not to get into the nitty gritty of family disputes but this one came as a shock in the form of a letter. A situation that needn't begun had the accuser had just thought of others and how it could affect their relationship instead of being so selfish and telling it as they see.

If you care about somebody shouldn't you accept them despite their faults and mistakes? Shouldn't you be there for them even for the little things as they have tried so hard to be there for you, the best way they know how? That's what I thought a real family was. At least that's what my mother taught me about true unconditional love.

It amazes me how many people thrive on other peoples mishaps in life. Enjoy seeing them squirm instead of holding out their hand. Expecting something in return after offering what one would consider a gesture of kindness, only to find out an alternative route, a guilt soaked con if you will.

Constant judgement on everything from weigh (or lack of), and finances to parenting, and cooking etc. If the person is already on the ground what gives you the right to kick dirt in their faces when you're already covered in mud.

Nobody is perfect therefore need not judge before stepping back and recalling their own mistakes.

Situations like these are ones where you can either forgive and move on or cut the rope and carry on. Sad to say but this time it's not my call.


-- Until Next Post...keep dreaming!





7/15/09

Since beginning this blog back in April I have met a glorious bunch of fellow mommies, writers and just all around nice people through my writings on helium, blogger and of course twitter. I breifly described my life in a nutshell in one of my earlier posts but I have never told you about me. Not so much the writer or the mommy me, but me as a person. Me in real life.


I am Canadian born half Irish, part Native and part French although I can barely pronouce a roll in my "r"s raised completely English in a tiny Quebec town. Seriously tiny, it's like a speck on the map if you google it.

I stand tall, slim and walk a little funny thanks to being born with hip dysplasia. Don't know what that is? Google it, it's quite interesting what you can learn from Dr. Google. I'm no model, with my average face and lack of self esteem sometimes but I always try to put that aside be the best I can be at whatever I'm doing whether it be being Mom, being wife or being a blogger. At times I could give up and just crawl into a corner but I'm a Leo. We don't do that, instead we brush ourselves off and roar even louder.

One might describe me as the "quiet geeky type" with a smart ass sense of humour and a big heart. Give me a couple of glasses of wine and maybe that could be true. Being a Leo I can be stubborn, naturally. My feelings can easily be hurt (hello, do you have a tissue?) and I'm a grudge holder if you hit me in a sensitive area (it's all the feelings. I'm a lover, not a fighter!) but overall as you'll see I'm easy going, maybe even too much sometimes.

I'm a loving, caring kind of girl which is a big step for me. Having grown up in a split family, love wasn't always available to be shown or if it was shown it was a weird way of showing it. My mom, kids and my hubby taught me what real unconditional love is, what better way to say thanks than to love them all back as much if not more.

I enjoy laughing and joking around but I have a more serious side when the time comes. I consider myself compassionate and I am loyal when it comes to friendships and relationships.

I dislike liars and manipulative personalities. They usually go hand in hand.

My temper can sometimes get the better of me at times but over the years learned to control it. Becoming mom helped me.

I was taught to be honest and treat others the way I would expect to me treated.

I am a chocoholic, especially a sucker for Reeses peanutbutter cups. Ever since I was a kid I've loved those cups but if none are available for my enjoyment, anything chocolate please.

I try my best to keep things real but simple writing about my kids, being a mom and even being a woman. One subject you won't read very often is about my personal relationship, and if I do write about it it's written breifly and subtle.

I believe in privacy but I love sharing online with everybody. So heres the part where you get to learn a little about my "marriage". My man and I have been together for almost six years. Most of you are probably smiling "that's it?" but considering my previous attemps at love (or maybe we should call them failures?) and the fact we've survived the worst of it, that's pretty good!

When I say "Marriage" I am not mocking my committed relationship or anything, rather we are married but we're not. In the province of Ontario couples living together for a certain period of time and/or have kids are considered common law married.

Although my sweetie has proposed, and we are engaged but have yet to have the actual wedding. Money is tight with two kids so it's just an event that will be in time. I can't wait though, being raised catholic I've always wanted to have the traditional church wedding with an awesome reception to celebrate.

This is my first attempt at a "get to know me" blog in years but I hope you enjoyed reading a bit about me, in real life.
My mother called me yesterday afternoon. She was returning my call from the night before, I had called to thank her for sending her hubby over with diapers for my little one. Running on my "daytime minutes" unfortunately couldn't talk very long.

I miss her. About seven years ago, before my kids, before my hubby it was just her and I, most of the time.

When I was 18 I moved in with her and began a new chapter after leaving an old one behind. We had our share of rough times but we also had alot of good times too. Like those times we would both be too tired or lazy to cook so we'd eat out instead. Spending mom and daughter time together we missed in my early teenaged years as my parents were divorced and my father had custody of me.

Now, after everything we've been through as mother and daughter as well as individual women has brought us closer in our matured relationship.

My mother has done and still does what she can to help guide me in the right direction. Besides my hubby (and wonderful online friends) she's about the only one whos proud of and encourages my hopes and dreams.

Living far from her isn't easy but we call almost every day. I just wanted to say if you have a close relationship with your mom, cherish it because mom can become your best friend. I know mine did.

Until my next thought -- dream on


-- Post From My iPhone

7/1/09


"Oh Canada Our home and native land..."

Our Canadian national anthem will be heard on this day from Newfoundland through Ontario to British Colombia, on this day we proud canadians celebrate our nations birthday Canada day.

Every year on July 1st we canadians celebrate the birth of our Canadian heritage. The nations capital, Ottawa Ontario, also my home town buzzes with exciting celebrations in the heart of downtown Ottawa.

Many a patriotic Canadian step out with family and friends to celebrate. No matter what day of the week the city wouldn't miss the spectacular air show, mounted police march, music and much more followed by an evening sky filled with beautiful fireworks.

Before I had my kids I was one of the fellow canadians to celebrate downtown but now the kids are much too young for the now a days drunken celebrations of parleament so we celebrate at home with a BBQ and some friends...HAPPY CANADA DAY EVERYONE! However you celebrate have fun but be safe.



-- Post From My iPhone

6/28/09

Here in Ottawa, Ontario there are certain by laws about picking up after your pets, more or less after your dog upon taking it for a walk.
I recently wrote an article on helium in a debate whether or not States in the USA who don't have the by law should!
It won't kill you to bring a bag when you know fido is going to do his do do!

As someone who walks everywhere AND is the owner of a large breed dog -- every right to RANT!

I went to the corner store earlier it's about 3-4 blocks maybe less away. Three times I JUST missed stepping in dog piles on the side walk!

The worst is running over it unknowingly with a stroller...
I'm just saying dogs are a responsibility -- feeding,water,shelter and cleaning up after them -- especially in public areas! DH brings our dog for his walks and never forgets the bag!! It's like forgetting a diaper when you bring a baby out...common sense!

Thought I'd share my mini rage for a moment :-)


-- Post From My iPhone

6/27/09

Before I began this blog my family and I lived in a "project" we were desperate and the place is what we needed at the time.

The kids in that particular project come from all walks of life, all races, religions etc. No matter who you were the kids showed no respect for property, pets or people including other kids parents. They would be vulgar and violent especially a select group of boys. We warned them several times if they as much as looked at our dd funny we'd be visiting their parents for a chat.

They would taunt our dog by throwing marbles at him or "bark" at him. All of us couldn't wait to move.

Today, a year later we see these kids from our old project -- as rude and vulgar if not worse than before. These aren't little kids they are preteens or "Tweens" as they call them now. Not even old enough to shave yet the F word flows out like a second language. F this F that F you. Omg they would be eating soap for dinner if they were mine but they aren't so all I can do is shake my head in disgust.

It makes you almost want to meet their parents and see who taught them or in this case didn't teach manners. Simple common sense like not swearing when there's a pool full of little kids, set an example parents!

My daughter is 4 she doesn't need to see these older kids acting like that, thankfully mine is smart and calls them "bad boys". I know my kids aren't perfect but they are polite...so far & I plan to continue to teach them respect and manners, besides who wants to be the parents with the vulgar kids! Not this mommy!!


-- Post From My iPhone

6/21/09

Children often use the phrase "it was an accident" to get out of doing something they shouldn't have been doing and got caught for in hopes to ease the pressure of the authority who caught them. Sometimes however it really IS an accident and my daughter showed me today how sensitive about hurting her brother she is.

After dinner time I was playing with both my kids. My daughter had left the room for a bit only to come back dressed in her old Halloween costume as snow white. Now my youngest is a 15 month old preemie who just recently learned to crawl...EVERYWHERE and his sister, without seeing him (or giving me time to react) danced straight over her brother, tripped and nearly face planted him into the floor. Of course being 15 months old and hit from behind my son cried his loud scared cry as I quickly picked him up to check him for boo boos.

I looked over at my daughter expecting her to have her typical "oops sorry" attitude when I saw she was in tears herself. I gave the baby to dad and had a chat with my daughter that showed maturity on her level and how she loves her brother...almost made me cry...

She said "I'm a bad big sister, it was an accident I didn't mean to make him fall, Im no good at taking care of him, I hurt his little head!!" I explained about being careful around him because he's crawling now and we went to say "sorry" and see if he was ok.

Back to normal, she gave her brother a kiss and said she wouldn't let him get hurt again...

What a little girl I have. She's growing up so fast! I thought I would share my story....

Dream xoxo




-- Post From My iPhone

Another Hallmark celebration come & gone. Today was fathers day. We celebrated by spending time together as a family. The kids made their daddy some home made gifts, my oldest made hers at preschool :-)

My hubby loved them! He also got an iPhone stereo dock (logitec) and a iPhone case for his iPhone.

Just some small tokens of our appreciation on this day even tho the kids show how much he means everyday an amazing daddy!

--reading his daddy day card from our oldest:-)


HAPPY FATHERS DAY 2 ALL THE GREAT DADS OUT THERE!!

Until next blog entry--
--dream on

6/12/09

Every baby is precious especially our very own. My son is a miracle in my eyes. Every milestone as a preemie he's reached from finally breathing on his own, learning to drink from a bottle, being on his tummy etc have been special because we didn't know if he would make it through the first 24 hours of his life but after months of struggling to reach milestones of preemies his age, my son learned how to sit up on his own! He's so proud when he does something new he's been practicing hard.

He will be one year old corrected age on Sunday the 14th of June which makes him 15 months old birth age. An extra reason to celebrate!



-- My little man today outside with mommy and daddy (big sister at preschool) :-)

6/9/09

The Drs appointment was a little harder than I thought when my dr mentioned what the specialist had said on my last hip scan. I need surgery, but first new scans to determine the extent of damage since my last scan and determine if it will be a replacement or similar reconstructive surgery like I had done at the age of 9. Either way call me "out for the count" when it happens.

I'm 27 years old right now so hearing "hip replacement" made me feel at a loss of words. I knew eventually down the road, long down the road I would require surgery,but as a woman and a mother my kids are still young and dependant on me! They need me on my two feet...I'm scared I admit it, we are talking about my ability to walk and be mobile here.

I have the support of my husband don't get me wrong I'm just speaking from a more personal point of view. This is a topic I will be bouncing on and off of as my blog grows.

A big event in my adult life that could change everything.




-- Post From My iPhone

5/19/09

I call my son a miracle baby for many reasons. He has beaten a lot of odds and still continues to fight every day. His story has been a rough one (see May 4ths entry), but he has recently reached some amazing milestones. Being born three months early his corrected age is 11 months but you can't expect a preemie to meet the milestones of a full 9 month term baby because each preemie has a unique background. My son recently learned how to hold his own bottle, sit up without support and feed himself small soft foods or food that "melts" like mini ritz crackers, he also has been practicing his speech skills. My oldest is almost 5 so it's sweet to hear the baby babble in the house again. Both my kids amaze me everyday, my son showing he's as strong as the best of them and my bright little girl with her thoughtful but funny ideas.

Here are my two angels who inspire a lot of my writing.








-- Ally --

5/10/09



"A piece of me I give to you. I painted this flower to say I love you.
The heart is you, the hand is me to show we are friends the best there can be.
I hope you will save it and look back someday at the flowers we shared on your special day"

This was the poem printed on a home made heart with flowers and my daughters hand print. Even though she may not have written the words being 4, she was proud to give it to me for mothers day! She also made a beautiful little candy jar (with baby jars provided by us! LOL) and a cute flower picture magnet!

I love mothers day! A great time to reflect on relationships past and present between you & your mom and you & your kids. Last year on this day I sat in the neonatal intensive care unit with my son...hardest mothers day yet! I'm happy though at least this mothers day I may not have my grandma anymore, my own mom lives far(but I did call her!) but at least I have my kids and my loving husband to celebrate motherhood with :-)

To all the moms out there, no matter how you celebrate or with who, have a wonderful mothers day.






My 4 year old proudly holding her card to mommy...



The cute flower picture magnet :-)
-- Ally --

5/9/09

It's been almost 5 years since we became parents. Before kids we had what we thought were "friends" and people around us who we thought cared. All that has changed as we grew from a couple to a family of four more and more people have just seemed to have dissapeared.
The majority of parents who lose part or all of their "before kids" social circle usually have the question: is it us? From personal experience I can tell you it isn't! Losing touch with old friends can happen with changes of lifestyle. Example before kids we could go out and party until 3:00am and sleep in, no responsibility except ourselves and a job! Now, if I'm up passed 12:00am I'm in for it with munchkins calling "Mommy" at 6:00am. Not much in common with single people or people without kids, almost like two different worlds if you think about it. Parenthood brings much responsibility and schedules to be followed not to mention finances to support your family. Going to get a 100$ hair do is not an option when you have kids to feed. Parenting is something you can only understand if you have kids, otherwise as an outsider "taking care of kids"can seem like an easy task.
We recently met a couple, who have kids and have had it as rough as the best of us but are still kind. We relate well to them in many points of view. A big change to hearing the adventures of the single friend or couple on the brink of break up. A nice change that let's us know, it's not us! It's life with kids :-) you wouldn't change it but there are ways to adapt.


-- Ally --

5/6/09



Animals can be wonderful companions and a first pet can be a step toward your child's learning responsibility of caring for another living creature. Buying the wrong pet for your child's age can have bad results for the child, parent, and pet!

There are many factors to consider before adopting a new pet such as time to spend taking care of the animal depending what you choose, the maturity level of the child capable of handling a new pet and of course finances to pay for items like caging materials, food etc.

Dogs big or small and cats require maintenance, vet checkups, food, medications/vaccines, and exercise. Also, consider the strain of stress on an already existing dog or cat if a new animal is brought in. Would your dog hurt the new puppy or would your cat just ignore the new kitten?

Larger animals are better as a family pet where everyone including the parents get involved. After all, parents pay for the animals upkeep.

Smaller animals like hamsters, gerbils, mice or rats aren't a good choice if your child is a bit younger 3-6 years or rough for example you may want to consider something simpler like a gold fish that doesn't involve handling incase of injury to the child or pet.

Most young kids would want to keep a small pet in their own room but this can result in the child taking the pet out without supervision and harm the animal or get bitten or scratched and want nothing more of the pet. Keeping your youngsters pet in a common area of the house is safer for your child and her pet!

Older children usually 7 and up can more or less benefit from having the responsibility of a rodent kind pet. Hamsters and guinea pigs if bought young and handled by your older child can make a cute little friend.

Pets are living creatures and deserve a happy healthy life even if it's "just a hamster" so please think carefully before choosing that pet to ensure you and your child properly take care of it for it's whole short life and aren't abandoned, or neglected.

My daughter asked me for a chihuahua for her 5th birthday. We already have a dog and although the pup most likely would adapt to our 3-year-old Doberman it wouldn't be fair to our dog to put him through the stress of a new pet already. Young dogs also require training, they don't come knowing where to do their business and trust me, messes will be made. Unless you are prepared for it, a puppy isn't always a great choice just because your kid begs for a new pet.

Also dog food is expensive and having a young baby and a pup at the same time isn't something I'm ready to take on just yet though in the future perhaps another dog. My husband and I will be discussing possibly, maybe getting her a smaller pet however because she has shown more maturity lately and more interest in caring for what's important to her.

Posted in memory of Zeus who passed away winter 2012. We will never forget you boy.

5/5/09



Kids tell lies, there is no doubt about it and as the years go by it seems they are learning how to lie at younger and younger ages. Children obviously lie to hide things so they don't get in trouble but sometimes it can be their little way of trying to get your attention on something important to them or that could be bothering them.

My 4-year-old daughter goes to preschool and almost every morning I notice this little girl always approaches my daughter and it's never nice! My daughter is a very happy child, a morning person who's always cheery. Last night during bath I noticed a minor scratch on her belly and I asked her what happened. Not making eye contact and fidgeting with her hair she tells me the little girl from school did that. I told my daughter if that was true I would have to speak to her mother. Right away my daughter corrected herself saying she actually did it when she fell on a branch outside. I asked my daughter why she blamed the little girl and her response was "because she's always mean to me" Seeing we've already tried the friendship approach so I told her to just continue being nice to her and ignore when she's mean. I told her there are other ways to deal with kids at school and lies still aren't acceptable.

This morning my daughter made me proud. We walked into class together and again the little girl came up to my daughter holding a picture of a princess and said "See I got this you don't!!" taunting my daughter. She turned around and said to the girl "That's nice" and walked away!

I always tell my kid's nobody has the right to be mean to you for no reason just like you have no right to be mean to someone for no reason. Hopefully, it will make her a strong woman one day knowing it doesn't matter what everyone thinks. We always remind her mom, dad & baby brother love her no matter what!

5/4/09

Welcome to A Motherhood Experience!

This is a blog written by me, Alyssa. A Canadian Mom of two who is here to share her feats (and defeats) through her Motherhood Experience! You will find great stories, motherhood tips and eventually perhaps features on great products our family thinks yours will just love!

First though, let me introduce you to the AME family...

Family life began for us in fall of 2003, when we found out we were expecting our first baby. Our relationship had just begun to blossom and we were thrown into the reality of possibly raising a family together. Could we handle it? Many people didn't think so but moving on over the years, I think we did pretty good.

The Hubby: His name is Pat (aka Hubby here on AME) and he's a French-Canadian, down to earth guy who can be tough but has a deep love for his family. He's a handy-man who can fix anything. I call him "MacGyver" as a joke because I always break things, he always fixes them. Computers are his specialty, he can fix any problem hardware or software related which is a plus for me because I need a running computer.  He's also an amazing painter/interior decorator, he did it as a trade before injuring his back so when it comes to home renovations, he gets it done the right way and it always looks so nice.  When it comes to his kids, he is a great dad. He loves to make them laugh and I love to see him make them laugh. When it comes time to get serious though, he just sends them to me (I'm kidding, he knows how to handle them!).

Meet the kids:

Our daughter, Kylie (aka K) was born in 2004. She's already going on five years old, that is just unbelievable. I still remember when she was born, it was 72 hours that should have been recorded for a reality tv show. I remember my water breaking first thing in the morning, 8am. I wasn't even out of BED yet. This kid wanted to come out and meet the world and right on time. Hubby, the wonderful man that he is, told me he would get me a "new water" when I tried to wake him. "The baby is coming!" did the trick, key words to see a man move faster than you've ever seen him before.

Skip to the part when we are at the hospital, we had parents who didn't get along all showing up to try and help but wow. It was a crazy time. I am happy the one person I needed was there of course, that would be hubby. She was born weighing 7 pounds 2 ounces and had crazy strong lungs, she still does to this day.

Now, almost 5 years old she is quite the little lady. She loves her family, especially her baby brother. She loves going to school and playing with her friends. She enjoys playing outside and doing arts and crafts with mom. She likes going on "adventures" to Tim Hortons with Dad, even if they are just going to get a donut and come home. I can tell she is going to be my strong one, she has been through a lot with the rest of us, you'll know what I mean - read on to meet my son.

My son is a little different, a miracle in my eyes. I won't get into the details and long story because I have rehashed it so many times in the last year, I still can't bring myself to write the entire story without bursting into tears. I guess the scars on my heart are still fresh. He was born last march (2008) three months too early. They called him the "27 weeker". He weighed less than 2lbs and his chances of survival were slim to none. We went through 3 1/2 months of waiting on eggshells, waiting for something to get better and hoping nothing would get worse. There isn't a day we don't wake up and thank the man upstairs for giving us a chance to be parents to this bright, cute little one and a half year old miracle man.

So these are the people who I adore, the people I do everything for - my family. Oh yes and I almost forgot one of the most important family members, our personal guard and drool machine - Zeus!

He's our boy, a four year old Doberman who we purchased from a breeder recommended by a friend at the time. The breeder ended up being a total lie, a family who illegally bred Dobermans on their farm and charged an insane price for them. We thought we had been blessed with a deal for Zeus until we brought him home and within weeks realized he was born with demodectic mange. When we mentioned this to the "breeder" they suggested we "put him down" and they would give us a "free dog". We were disgusted by them and ended up filing a complaint with the SPCA (Quebec Humane Society). The website and contact numbers we had been using for them we no longer in service within weeks. I think they got the message. We managed to save Zeus with medication although his eye was damaged from the mange. He is still our boy and the best dog you could ask for! :)