7/27/09

-Wisemen speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something- Plato

In life you will always have at least a few people deciding to take it upon themselves to tell you "like it is" or at least how they perceive whatever it is they feel the need to let their voice be heard about, despite the consequences.

Whether it comes in the form of an e-mail, written letter or voiced verbally, words can still hurt and burn bridges if not chosen properly by those deemed "loved ones".

Not everyone will agree with everyone they meet, befriend or are even related to. But being considerate toward others feelings is important in any relationship no matter how angry or hurt you are. If you expect respect you have to show respect.

Recently this kind of thing happened in my world where yet again family decided to "tell it as they see".

Not to get into the nitty gritty of family disputes but this one came as a shock in the form of a letter. A situation that needn't begun had the accuser had just thought of others and how it could affect their relationship instead of being so selfish and telling it as they see.

If you care about somebody shouldn't you accept them despite their faults and mistakes? Shouldn't you be there for them even for the little things as they have tried so hard to be there for you, the best way they know how? That's what I thought a real family was. At least that's what my mother taught me about true unconditional love.

It amazes me how many people thrive on other peoples mishaps in life. Enjoy seeing them squirm instead of holding out their hand. Expecting something in return after offering what one would consider a gesture of kindness, only to find out an alternative route, a guilt soaked con if you will.

Constant judgement on everything from weigh (or lack of), and finances to parenting, and cooking etc. If the person is already on the ground what gives you the right to kick dirt in their faces when you're already covered in mud.

Nobody is perfect therefore need not judge before stepping back and recalling their own mistakes.

Situations like these are ones where you can either forgive and move on or cut the rope and carry on. Sad to say but this time it's not my call.


-- Until Next Post...keep dreaming!





7/15/09

Since beginning this blog back in April I have met a glorious bunch of fellow mommies, writers and just all around nice people through my writings on helium, blogger and of course twitter. I breifly described my life in a nutshell in one of my earlier posts but I have never told you about me. Not so much the writer or the mommy me, but me as a person. Me in real life.


I am Canadian born half Irish, part Native and part French although I can barely pronouce a roll in my "r"s raised completely English in a tiny Quebec town. Seriously tiny, it's like a speck on the map if you google it.

I stand tall, slim and walk a little funny thanks to being born with hip dysplasia. Don't know what that is? Google it, it's quite interesting what you can learn from Dr. Google. I'm no model, with my average face and lack of self esteem sometimes but I always try to put that aside be the best I can be at whatever I'm doing whether it be being Mom, being wife or being a blogger. At times I could give up and just crawl into a corner but I'm a Leo. We don't do that, instead we brush ourselves off and roar even louder.

One might describe me as the "quiet geeky type" with a smart ass sense of humour and a big heart. Give me a couple of glasses of wine and maybe that could be true. Being a Leo I can be stubborn, naturally. My feelings can easily be hurt (hello, do you have a tissue?) and I'm a grudge holder if you hit me in a sensitive area (it's all the feelings. I'm a lover, not a fighter!) but overall as you'll see I'm easy going, maybe even too much sometimes.

I'm a loving, caring kind of girl which is a big step for me. Having grown up in a split family, love wasn't always available to be shown or if it was shown it was a weird way of showing it. My mom, kids and my hubby taught me what real unconditional love is, what better way to say thanks than to love them all back as much if not more.

I enjoy laughing and joking around but I have a more serious side when the time comes. I consider myself compassionate and I am loyal when it comes to friendships and relationships.

I dislike liars and manipulative personalities. They usually go hand in hand.

My temper can sometimes get the better of me at times but over the years learned to control it. Becoming mom helped me.

I was taught to be honest and treat others the way I would expect to me treated.

I am a chocoholic, especially a sucker for Reeses peanutbutter cups. Ever since I was a kid I've loved those cups but if none are available for my enjoyment, anything chocolate please.

I try my best to keep things real but simple writing about my kids, being a mom and even being a woman. One subject you won't read very often is about my personal relationship, and if I do write about it it's written breifly and subtle.

I believe in privacy but I love sharing online with everybody. So heres the part where you get to learn a little about my "marriage". My man and I have been together for almost six years. Most of you are probably smiling "that's it?" but considering my previous attemps at love (or maybe we should call them failures?) and the fact we've survived the worst of it, that's pretty good!

When I say "Marriage" I am not mocking my committed relationship or anything, rather we are married but we're not. In the province of Ontario couples living together for a certain period of time and/or have kids are considered common law married.

Although my sweetie has proposed, and we are engaged but have yet to have the actual wedding. Money is tight with two kids so it's just an event that will be in time. I can't wait though, being raised catholic I've always wanted to have the traditional church wedding with an awesome reception to celebrate.

This is my first attempt at a "get to know me" blog in years but I hope you enjoyed reading a bit about me, in real life.
My mother called me yesterday afternoon. She was returning my call from the night before, I had called to thank her for sending her hubby over with diapers for my little one. Running on my "daytime minutes" unfortunately couldn't talk very long.

I miss her. About seven years ago, before my kids, before my hubby it was just her and I, most of the time.

When I was 18 I moved in with her and began a new chapter after leaving an old one behind. We had our share of rough times but we also had alot of good times too. Like those times we would both be too tired or lazy to cook so we'd eat out instead. Spending mom and daughter time together we missed in my early teenaged years as my parents were divorced and my father had custody of me.

Now, after everything we've been through as mother and daughter as well as individual women has brought us closer in our matured relationship.

My mother has done and still does what she can to help guide me in the right direction. Besides my hubby (and wonderful online friends) she's about the only one whos proud of and encourages my hopes and dreams.

Living far from her isn't easy but we call almost every day. I just wanted to say if you have a close relationship with your mom, cherish it because mom can become your best friend. I know mine did.

Until my next thought -- dream on


-- Post From My iPhone

7/1/09


"Oh Canada Our home and native land..."

Our Canadian national anthem will be heard on this day from Newfoundland through Ontario to British Colombia, on this day we proud canadians celebrate our nations birthday Canada day.

Every year on July 1st we canadians celebrate the birth of our Canadian heritage. The nations capital, Ottawa Ontario, also my home town buzzes with exciting celebrations in the heart of downtown Ottawa.

Many a patriotic Canadian step out with family and friends to celebrate. No matter what day of the week the city wouldn't miss the spectacular air show, mounted police march, music and much more followed by an evening sky filled with beautiful fireworks.

Before I had my kids I was one of the fellow canadians to celebrate downtown but now the kids are much too young for the now a days drunken celebrations of parleament so we celebrate at home with a BBQ and some friends...HAPPY CANADA DAY EVERYONE! However you celebrate have fun but be safe.



-- Post From My iPhone