12/31/09

Christmas 2009 has come & gone once again. Christmas eve and day we spent celebrating with the kids. Good food, gifts and lots of love made for a great holiday.

The kids were more than happy with what they got and that's all that really matters for me. Making sure my kids are happy especially Christmas morning.

Boxing day (as we call the day after Xmas) my mother, her husband, two friends of ours & their two kids came over for a little dinner. It was fun except the weather wasn't the best considering my mom had to drive an hour back home. She left before dark and all is well.

Throughout the week between Xmas & new years we have been socializing with good friends, making the last week of the year at least a memorable one.

In two hours the clock will strike midnight ending 2009 and beginning 2010. Another year gone.

2009 was a pretty good year - the highlights were our son turning 1, our daughter hitting 5 and moving into a better neighbourhood and bigger house to raise our beautiful kids. We adopted a cat, reconnected with old friends and made new ones.

I began my blog in April 2009, began writing, joined Twitter and met some amazing and wonderful people in 2009 too.

Unfortunately there were some family and even friend feuds which couldn't be resolved as easily as one would think. Moving on is hard but sometimes it's best to do what makes you happy. As hard as its been we regret nothing. We wish them all the best for 2010.

For 2010 I want to write more, I want to be able to write on a computer more instead of my trusty iPhone. Actually make it more into a career than a hobby.

I want to have more patience and not let the little things get to me. I want to do more for myself and try to gain the courage to face the battles that lay ahead involving my upcoming surgery.

Most of all, I want to make sure my children and my partner are healthy and happy. They are my world & continue to be into 2010.

Hug your kids and kiss your spouse - have a safe & happy new years eve everyone!


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

12/19/09

Being prepared for the holidays is something that we all as mothers try to accomplish. We've decorated our home, cooked a fabulous meal but after all the christmas rush we forgot the most important part - the desert! What to do...check online, after all the Internet is a great library for recipes both easy and inexpensive.

Here is a quick, simple and fun little recipe I found on www.bettycrocker.com

- I'm going to try it out this week with my kids as an activity during the Christmas holidays-

Christmas Tree Brownies




You will need:
• 1 box of brownie mix
1/4 cup water
1/3 cup veg. Oil
2eggs
• candy coated chocolates (m&ms or smarties, coated mini hershey kisses)
• 1 cup of betty crocker white whipped icing** 2-3 drops of green food coloring

1- Preheat oven to 375*F
Grease only bottom of 9" round baking pan.
Prepare brownie mix as directed on package (using eggs, oil and water).
Pour into pan.

2- BAKE 50-55 minutes or until the old toothpick method comes out clean. Cool for 1 hour.

3- Add food color to icing (optional unless making traditional green trees :-))

4- Serve: Cut into 12 wedges and decorate!


**have fun with this recipe by substituting the icing by drizzling plain white icing sugar over chocolate icing gives a "snowy" look and decorating let's the kids be creative by using different candies and colors on their tree**


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Note: the food pictured is not my creation it's from www.Bettycrocker.com, I will post my own when we bake these...Now those look good!

12/11/09

A few months back I made a very sad and failed attempt to sell some of my kids old clothes. Funny enough I actually felt this guilt doing it because normally when my kids outgrow their things we simply give them to somebody who needs them, for free.

So now being it Christmas we have been giving ds old clothes away to someone we know with a little boy too. Tonight he got an early gift, dh brought over ds exersaucer we haven't used it in months but bought it brand new only ds ever used it.

Feels good to know we are helping others without gain, although $$ from used clothes couldve helped but oh well!

People in the past helped us when we were starting out, i'd just like to repay the favor by doing the same. I would love to donate money to charity but financially we just can't.

Giving puts me in the Christmas mood.

-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Just about everybody has access to the Internet. Whether they just browse or are hard core bloggers, the Internet is a vast place of information both educational and unfortunately sometimes personal, a little too personal.

Blogs are fun to write and they can be fun to read. Anyone can open a free blog and write whatever they wish. Word of the wise: think before you post. Anybody can read your blog, anybody.

This is where my story kicks in. Recently I came back in contact with a relative who I haven't spoken to in almost two years due to a family dispute, long story.

Anyway, we had chatted online for barely two weeks when I stumbled across something very hurtful and on the internet of all places.

After a facebook email pleading for us to get together and talk things through I find on their myspace blog an entire paragraph belittling me as a mother and as a woman, complete lies about me and written just less than 3 months ago.

I was shocked that somebody especially family could try to use the Internet as an outlet to make themselves feel better by belittling somebody like that. Unreal.

My reaction: told (not asked) the person to take the post down and expressed my disgust in the whole situation. They shouldn't expect any further of me any time soon.

As terrible as this is right before the holidays, it really gives me a good reason to focus even more on the people who truly care, unconditional love of my dh and kids.

Just a little advice to Internet newbes, think before you post!

And yes, I thought this one through ;-)



-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

12/3/09

Tonight we had our first parent teacher interview. Of course I went, being the one who deals with most of the childrens appointments. I was nervous and not about meeting the teacher but about what she had to say about our dd.

For those of you new to my blog my dd is an amazing little girl. She's bright, has a good sense of humour, she has a big heart and the whole package but when she doesn't get what she wants watch out. It's like watching her transition from this innocent 5 year old to a mouthy know it all 13 year old. She will do anything to get her way (not like she does no matter what she pulls with me!)

So back to the interview, at 5:45 I hustled my butt in the freezing cold to make the 6:10 meeting. Made it there 10 minutes early too (organized mommy points!). The 6:00 family were late so I was able to go earlier, bonus!

Met the teacher, lovely lady very welcoming and kind. We discussed dds progress as far as school work goes she's been progressing well. Which made me quite happy but the harder part was about to be said.

I think the teacher knew I was expecting it when she said "okay, now to discuss her...um...behaviour". Here it came, in a nicer way than I had interpreted in my head. To put it short my dd is a handful and some at school. Worst part is she's only there for 2 1/2 hours a day!

Being on time outs, having to be sent to another class and basically doing what sounded worse than she does to me at home. The teacher finished with "She is a lovely child, we just need to tone down the determination". Determined is a light way of putting it.

I felt like crying on the walk home but instead I thought about a decent speech when dd and I had our talk about the interview when I got home.

I got home, discussed the interview first with dh. Gave him the heads up, he was impressed by her french work report. Dd came in the room so we sat her down and discussed everything.

As a mom I believe in letting my kids know they can come to me with anything no matter how big or small, that's what I'm here for. Every night I spend about 10-15 minutes before bed when I tuck her in to just talk to her. It doesn't matter what about but I always end it telling her how special she is to me, her daddy & her brother. She always replies "I love you too mom". The reason seeing her act out the way she has been breaks my heart because I know that's not her.

Hopefully my new and improved mommy methods will work. Wish me luck!


-- Until next time...Keep Dreaming Always, @iDream1

Becoming a mom is one of the most wonderful things in life, enjoying every happy moment from pregnancy to birth. When baby arrives a lot of mothers find themselves scratching their heads. The parenting books didn't even come close to the real thing leaving moms confused and frustrated not knowing how to deal with the little things that can feel so big at the time.

If I hadn't received the advice I did, through online networks of new moms as well as family and friends, I think the first few months of motherhood would've been a little more crazy.

Here are my top picks of advice given to me by the "wiser" and learned at the time my daughter was born:

1) Being a mother means that most of your time will be spent taking care of baby, don't forget about you! Once a day do something for you, take a walk, listen to your iPod while in the hot bath, whatever brings you to that quiet place do it. Mom needs to recharge the batteries too.

2) Sleep when the baby sleeps. With mountains of laundry, a house to clean and baby bottles to make most would laugh at the thought of sleeping when the baby sleeps but honestly take the advice. You need your energy to take care of baby. Every baby has a routine, so when nap time comes for baby it should come for mommy too. If you're lucky enough to have family and friends around, ask them for help. Even if its to bring over a hot meal for supper or something during your transition into new mommyhood.

3) Don't take others advice as a personal attack on your parenting skills. Some people can come off rude, they can come off sounding like judge Judy and it can hurt your feelings but most of the time they are just doing to you what was done to them. They are just trying to help from experience. If you feel it's unsolicited advice or are insulted, let them know you've got this.

4) Know that no matter what you do, that little baby loves you unconditionally. She looks at you for everything from food to cuddles. As scary as it might sound, as she gets older the bonds will only grown stronger between her and you.

5) Remember every baby is different and although baby books can give you good pointers, you won't find the magic key at the end. What might work to calm some babies may not work for others etc etc but never give up. As you get to know your baby you will know what soothes and what just doesn't work. No matter what anyone says, do what makes you and your baby happy.

Have your own tips on parenting you would like to share with the world of new moms? Leave a comment below, I love to hear from my readers!