12/10/10



Every day after school my daughter and I chat while we walk home together. Our conversations are usually about how her day went and what she did, she will ask me how my day went and what I did as well. Today we had a bit of a bonding mommy-daughter moment that made me feel good inside.

The first thing she told me when she got off the bus was all about her front tooth that FINALLY fell out. Unfortunately it fell out while she was enjoying her pizza lunch at school but nonetheless it fell out and the tooth fairy is visiting tonight ;-)

After we had walked away from the other kids and parents at the bus stop she told me something in confidence. I wasn't even allowed to tell her daddy (even though she did once she got home). I won't break our trust by mentioning exactly what it was here, I did promise her I wouldn't tell anyone the whole story. After all, they say what you blog about your kids could come back and bite them in the butt one day! Either way she told me about something very embarrassing that happened in school involving a toilet which lead to her having to come home in clothes out of the lost and found bin at school. Not just any clothes, but BOYS clothes. She was humiliated by being laughed at by some of her peers because of the clothes and the reason why she had to wear them, she told me it was just awful.

As horrible as I felt for her, it felt good to know she trusts me enough to talk to me about stuff that when I was a child, I would keep to myself. The worst thing I did was not talk to my parents enough or maybe the worst thing they did was not take the time to always listen and that's something I'm trying to build with my kids. That trust that they can come to me for anything and know I won't judge them. I didn't judge her for having to wear boys clothes home and I didn't laugh at the situation (well, maybe a little in my mind) as she explained it to me, although I can see why a bunch of six-year olds would find it amusing. Kids will be kids, I'm glad I'm close with mine and I hope over that the years that special bond doesn't fade.

Tip: Open the lines of communication by allowing your kids to ignite the conversation. Whatever you're doing, put it down and listen. Make eye contact, respond when they ask a question and let them know you are there for them, no matter what. They'll thank you and you will thank yourself in the long run.

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