10/23/15

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Throughout life, we will all face the challenge of giving someone a second chance. While it's sometimes a hard thing to do, it's an important lesson for our little ones to learn firsthand, just like the girls at Ever After High in Way Too Wonderland had to learn to embrace Courtly Jester. Courtly is the student body president at Wonderland High, which by Wonderland rules also makes her the school's vice principal and principal. While Courtly can sometimes have an aggressive exterior, she has a very insecure interior which the other girls learn to have compassion for. 


There are lots of ways to teach our kids about giving second chances. Take a page out of Way Too Wonderland's book, here are a few tips to get everyone started:

Learn by Example.


There will be many times as a parent where the right thing to do is offer our kids a second chance. Forgetting to do a chore, a small homework task or being a little late home for dinner are all small mistakes a child will make. Instead of serving up a punishment right off the bat, try offering a second chance. this way your child can see the benefits of giving second chances for themselves.

Things Aren't Always as They Appear.

Just like Courtly, sometimes other children can act out because they are insecure or have something upsetting or stressful happening in their lives. Jumping to conclusions about somebody can be easy but instead, encourage your child to consider the other child's feelings and what they may be going through. Encourage them to be tolerant, offer a second chance and maybe even check-in with the other person to see what might be happening to make them be acting out. It may not always work but it never hurts to try.


Encourage Compassion.

The golden rule says that we should all treat others how we would like to be treated ourselves, I know thats one rule I try to live by, myself. Encourage your child to think about giving second chances through this point of view just like the girls in Way Too Wonderland did who realised that if they were Courtly, they too would want a chance to make things right. Teaching your kids this kind of compassion is an important skill they will use again and again through life. 

Ban Name Calling. 


Often for little ones, giving a second chance to someone doesn't involve any wrongdoing. Sometimes, it can be that friend or classmate has done something embarrassing in front of others. Tell your kids that jumping on the bandwagon to laugh or make fun of another kid in that position is not acceptable. Remind them about how they would feel if the tables were turned. 

Praise Kindness. 

If your kids offer someone a second chance, give them praise. It can take a lot to say your sorry and turn the other cheek, let them know you're proud of them for doing the right thing. In the future, they will be more motivated to do the right thing as they know the outcome will be positive. 

No matter how hard giving a second chance can be, forgiveness is an important skill for your kids to learn. Luckily, you can always turn to the girls at Ever After High to set a great example, especially in Way Too Wonderland now on Netflix! 



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38 comments:

  1. I teach them about forgiveness and how everyone makes mistakes!

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  2. I point out when they are given second chances and talk about how nice it feels to give and receive second chances.

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  3. I try to point out that everyone can make a mistake and that forgiveness is important. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

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  4. Teach them how forgiveness is good for the heart.

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  5. My kids aren't old enough yet, but, like with most things, I plan to use my own example.

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  6. Lead by Example is the best way. Give them second chances if they make mistakes, and see them giving you other second chances. (Judy Cowan)

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  7. I try to help them see things from someone else's perspective.

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  8. I teach by example. I have shown my son that second chances are important

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  9. I teach her by example and have her put herself in the other persons shoes.

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  10. I encourage this by explaining sometimes people do not make the right decision the first time and you can miss out on important friendships.

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  11. I encourage them to put themselves in the other persons shoes, to see how hurt they would feel

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  12. I encourage them to practice forgiveness and remember that everyone makes mistakes sometimes.

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  13. I encourage them to give second chances. I explain that everyone makes mistakes in life and need to be forgiven.
    Florence C

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  14. Teaching them to give themselves second chances when they make mistakes is a great starting point.

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  15. Teaching them that everyone makes mistakes

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  16. I tell our girls that everyone has a bad day and we all make mistakes. Each day is a new one and don't dwell on the past :)

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  17. I'm trying to teach my daughter that other people sometimes have problems or are sad because of reasons we don't understand, so try to give them a second chance and be a good friend!

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  18. I let my grandkids know that everyone "in the whole wide world" makes mistakes, but its always good to forgive and give a second chance!

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  19. I try to teach my niece that everyone deserves a second chance in life

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  20. We teach our girls that everyone makes mistakes - it's part of being human. It could be because something that upset you right before you made a mistake, that you're tired, hungry etc...all of these things can contribute. From there it spins into why you should get enough sleep, make sure you fuel your body with good food and that taking care of your spirit and emotional well being is just important as the physical.
    If they made a mistake and no one ever forgave them or gave them a second chance how would they feel?

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  21. We always talked about things like this: making mistakes, forgiveness, giving people second chances, "walking" in other people's shoes, etc.

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  22. I always encouraged my children to give friends who may have hurt them a second chance and to forgive them if they apologize. I know how sometimes peer pressure can change friendships and so I have explained that to my children many times when they were growing up

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  23. I don't know if I've really talked to my daughter about this topic yet, though I hope I've showed by example.

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  24. I have a chat about making mistakes and having empathy...Modelling that in your own life is good.

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  25. I try to teach empathy and encourage them to think about how the person I'm trying to get the second chance for might be feeling.

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  26. i have taught them about forgiveness, people make mistakes and to give second chances.

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  27. Everyone makes mistakes. Of course everyone needs second chances
    (Debbie W)

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  28. I really don't need to do anything to encourage her to forgive, she is simply very forgiving by nature - she is much better at it than I am actually! I think that by teaching her empathy when she was very young, she developed a sense of forgiveness from that. I think she realizes that usually when someone hurts her it is because they are feeling hurt, or uncomfortable etc. themselves, so she has this belief that no one does something mean simply because they are mean people, but just that they are having trouble themselves at the time. She is still quite young, so her view may change as she gets older, but so far whenever she's had a problem with another person she is very quick to forgive and move on, once they sort out the issue. Sometimes I learn from her - she will remind me that the person is not a bad person, they just made a bad choice. Oh if only we could all see things this way all the time!! I hope she never loses this positivity about people!!

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  29. we talk about how everyone is affected, and how sometimes its not exactly what it seems

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  30. Always. Second chances are big around here. Often she discovers that she's misunderstood the original action.

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  31. Leading by example is the absolute best way!~

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  32. I try to teach empathy and how would they feel.. People make mistakes and we have to forgive

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  33. We encourage them by allowing them 2nd chances. teaching them everyone will make mistakes.

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  34. Usually by reminding them of a past time or making up a scenario about how you would feel if you didnt get the chance for a second chance.

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  35. 2nd chances. I think it's an important lesson for kids, and adults, to learn. Life is full of second chances, often fourth and fifth chances too!

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  36. when my little dude gets upset because someone hurt hi feelings i tell him it wont always happen so he should forgive them and try to be friends again

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  37. Everyone deserves second chances, nobody is perfect and we should never judge :)

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  38. I always make sure my kids know that it's okay to make mistakes and to not judge anyone or anything based on our first experiences.

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