Throughout life, we will all face the challenge of giving someone a second chance. While it's sometimes a hard thing to do, it's an important lesson for our little ones to learn firsthand, just like the girls at Ever After High in Way Too Wonderland had to learn to embrace Courtly Jester. Courtly is the student body president at Wonderland High, which by Wonderland rules also makes her the school's vice principal and principal. While Courtly can sometimes have an aggressive exterior, she has a very insecure interior which the other girls learn to have compassion for.
There are lots of ways to teach our kids about giving second chances. Take a page out of Way Too Wonderland's book, here are a few tips to get everyone started:
Learn by Example.
There will be many times as a parent where the right thing to do is offer our kids a second chance. Forgetting to do a chore, a small homework task or being a little late home for dinner are all small mistakes a child will make. Instead of serving up a punishment right off the bat, try offering a second chance. this way your child can see the benefits of giving second chances for themselves.
Things Aren't Always as They Appear.
Just like Courtly, sometimes other children can act out because they are insecure or have something upsetting or stressful happening in their lives. Jumping to conclusions about somebody can be easy but instead, encourage your child to consider the other child's feelings and what they may be going through. Encourage them to be tolerant, offer a second chance and maybe even check-in with the other person to see what might be happening to make them be acting out. It may not always work but it never hurts to try.
The golden rule says that we should all treat others how we would like to be treated ourselves, I know thats one rule I try to live by, myself. Encourage your child to think about giving second chances through this point of view just like the girls in Way Too Wonderland did who realised that if they were Courtly, they too would want a chance to make things right. Teaching your kids this kind of compassion is an important skill they will use again and again through life.
Ban Name Calling.
Often for little ones, giving a second chance to someone doesn't involve any wrongdoing. Sometimes, it can be that friend or classmate has done something embarrassing in front of others. Tell your kids that jumping on the bandwagon to laugh or make fun of another kid in that position is not acceptable. Remind them about how they would feel if the tables were turned.
If your kids offer someone a second chance, give them praise. It can take a lot to say your sorry and turn the other cheek, let them know you're proud of them for doing the right thing. In the future, they will be more motivated to do the right thing as they know the outcome will be positive.
No matter how hard giving a second chance can be, forgiveness is an important skill for your kids to learn. Luckily, you can always turn to the girls at Ever After High to set a great example, especially in Way Too Wonderland now on Netflix!
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